It’s OK to Get Mad. It Could Be Your Secret Weapon to Your Weight Loss Results!

I truly believe at the root of every person is the desire to be healthy and have more energy. There is a desire to look at yourself in the mirror, stand tall and proud with shoulders back and head held high, excited of the vibrant person smiling back at you. I don’t care if you are young or old, male or female; if you’re working on getting in shape, a fitness model, or you have 100 pounds to lose…that desire lives within you!

So why don’t more people act on it? Why do we spend so much time wishing, planning, and hoping something will change?

“I want to start living healthier, if I could only find the motivation.”

Does that sound familiar? I bet it does, because I hear it from people ALL THE TIME!

My first question is: What kind of motivation are you looking for? Most people can’t answer that question either. 

It’s as if they want the Greek god of motivation to throw a ‘motivation lightning bolt’ down from the heavens that will smack them in the forehead and cause them to immediately hit the ground doing pushups.

I hate to break it to you – that isn’t going to happen. It didn’t happen for me when I was 100 pounds heavier, but I do understand how you feel. There were numerous times I wish some outside force would start my new health regimen for me- because as we all know: starting is the hardest part.

As I look back at my own journey, a surprising emotion played a huge role in helping me get started:


Surprised?  I was. I allowed my mind to go back and replay those darker days and came to that stunning realization.

Most of us would associate anger as a negative emotion. Not something to spark growth and change. But I got angry! 

I was fed up with:
  •  Being the ‘funny fat guy’
  • Only having 3 shirts that I felt semi-comfortable in
  • Having the hottest girl in school tell me “I want to meet a guy like you someday” (as she continued to date her boyfriend who treated her like garbage)
  • Never wanting to go on summer vacations because I may be faced with being shirtless at a pool
This list could go on. But my point is, there has to be a time when you get mad. When you say, “I am tired of living this way. Something has to change.” It is in THAT moment when you no longer wonder where you will find your motivation. You aren’t looking to celebrity fad diets or some cheap, quick-fix gadget to give you a short term band-aid for your weight issues. You decide, “I am DONE living this way. I want to change my lifestyle. I want something REAL. I want to redefine WHO I AM!”

And you can!   If I can do it, you can do it!

I would love to help you take that frustration and anger, refocus it, and use it to create something positive. I truly believe anger can be a great ally IF we learn how to use it constructively. It can actually be used to fuel your workouts! To stay motivated, and to bring amazing intensity to your workouts, you need someone to show you how to do it. That is what I am here to help you to do!

So if you are fed up with your current situation, tired of wanting but not doing, and would like to work with someone who knows how you feel and is excited to help, leave your info below to set up a one-on-one consultation. I’m excited to hear your story and create some positive momentum together!

Coach Jimmy Hays NelsonJimmy Hays Nelson Beachbody Coach is a self-proclaimed ‘former fat guy’. In his mid 20’s he was an overweight college dropout, who found himself living back at home with his parents. Knowing something had to change, he took action.

Through his transformation journey he lost 100 pounds, started his own business, was featured in the Shaun T workout series INSANITY, and has been seen multiple times on QVC with his buddy Tony Horton promoting P90X.

He founded NELSONGY FITNESS with his wife Kelly to reach out to give hope and support to those that are dissatisfied with their current situation. Whether you are lacking physically, emotionally, financially, or nutritionally we are here to help you see REAL RESULTS!


  1. John Hays | October 4, 2011 at 9:09 pm

    Great post!  It’s so true, instead of letting those feelings dig you deeper into your hole you’ve gotta use it as fuel for your transformation fire!!

  2. Demi Bean | October 6, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    That’s what happened to me too (great post btw)…got pissed off at being chubby and no effing clothes fit me. After eating my 3rd gallon of icecream in less than 2 days-I decided I better fix that crap! P90X saved my life because I got PISSED OFF.

  3. Bigjonstudd2005 | July 5, 2012 at 5:29 pm

    Allright Jimmy, youre correct on getting angry, but my problem comes because no matter what I seem to do is increase my weight.( But I wont starve myself.) Anyway, what do I do because my exercise seems to affect my personal life outside of my workouts when I  get angry. So I’d rather just push it and not worry about my effort of getting angry. I like to just do it, and do it hard.

  4. D Morin2 | July 9, 2012 at 7:40 pm

    Hey Jimmy. My name is Daniel and I am from Halifax, Nova Scotia 32 yrs old but originally from Edmundston, New Brunswick Canada. And I am french which means that my english could be distorted :)After I got off the navy ship back in 2009, I was determined to get back in shape by running in the morning and doing weight lifting. I got very good where my bodyfat went to 9% and a weight of 193 lbs but I flushed out some muscle mass with it. Last year, my right shoulder rotator cuff alt me for over 2 months of training and then the roller coster started AGAIN until I actually reached back 20-22% BF (depending on the time of day) at 250-255 lbs. My military dress pants got horrible, my tunic got so tight….ahhhh i was not happy! I am actually doing the Mike Westerdal critical bench press and my strength went up big time BUT being strong and to like what you see in the mirror is totally different. I got bullied at work because I gained weight and I straight that up because thats harassement and I do not tolerate that. However, it automatically setted up my brain to a psychological downfall and I started to isolate myself, angry at me….so if I do not like myself how can I be in peace with my surrounding? 
    I will release from the canadian forces in 2014 and will start a career in telecom structured cabling. Well yes it will require some cardio, resistance especially to fit in those tight communication rooms, tunnels, etc…
    I was kinda scared to start a new program like insanity but if I do not take measures right now, my moral will eventually give up. 

    But you know what, I am not afraid to work hard and I will do it. I just have to push play and give the best of me. And that will be for a good reason….to be happy with me !

    I cant believe how the brain always want to take the easiest shortcut. But now, I want it to be my slave. 

    Ahh sometimes I feel so discouraged about to avoid being seen with a fat body. It is just torturing me so bad. 

    Anyway, I will not try insanity but i will do it. I do not have any choice….live…or dig my grave !!!

    Thanks for accepting to read my long message. Cheers.



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