How to Never Stop Growing
He used to be an out of work, drowning in debt, actor. Who was so broke he passed out chocolates as a job in New York Times Square. Now, he is a financially fit husband and dad living a kick ass life of travel and fun, and will never have to punch a time clock again. Delivering only the best business tips to the pros. Buckle your chin strap, you just stepped into training camp with Coach Jimmy.
Jimmy: On this episode of training camp with Coach Jimmy, I bring in my dear friend Julie Voris who is going to teach you how to enjoy the journey and stay coachable. Stay tuned.
Jimmy: Okay, so we’re always talking to home business professionals which is you and we’re talking different tips that will help people. You and I spoke earlier and you said you had a burning tip like what’s been your jam lately so as you’re talking to people that are in our business, what’s the key tip? What’s the thing that they need to remember always?
Julie: Number one always, doesn’t matter what business you’re in or what the product is it doesn’t matter, the best piece of advice I can give anyone is to be coachable because I think that we can get so deep in the rut of the day to day “stuff” and forget that we too have to continue to be learners and we will plateau. That’s kind of a given in any kind of business.
We will absolutely plateau and if we think that the way that we’re doing it currently will be always the way to do it then we’ll stay at that space and on that plateau, but what got us to one place get us to the next place and the only way that that happens, to move forward, is to kind of open your head and your heart to being coachable.
I always say if people, if someone in your life that has value that is important has given you the same piece or two of advice multiple times, it means that you should be taking it and you’re wasting a lot of energy by not. Then I think we all fight the thing whatever that is, the thing or things that we know we need to be doing. We put up a lot of barriers, “Well, I can’t do that because of this,” and you fight it when that energy is so much better spent actually doing the thing.
So, if someone’s been telling you something multiple times, and it’s someone whose advice you value and has importance in your life, and you’re doing that, you’re not being coachable. You’re just not.
Jimmy: That’s great! Do you feel like that is a bigger challenge for somebody that’s been in our industry for a while?
Julie: Absolutely. Absolutely.
Jimmy: Because a lot of times people come in, there are some people that come in with an ego. “I’ve been successful in this industry so I’m going to be successful here.” Those people need to learn to be coachable, but it really is one, two, three years and those that have a little bit of success, what’s the phrase? “The problem with success is a little bit.” Because they don’t stay coachable.
So, to wrap this up. If somebody hasn’t been, is there a way to nudge somebody? Do you just try to stay patient as a leader with your leaders that you feel aren’t coachable anymore? Or do you try different angles to get to them? Like, how do you get to somebody that you’re frustrated that they haven’t stayed coachable?
Julie: Yes and yes. All of that. Some of it is a patience issue and some of it is a letting go because you know you can’t drag them along and some of it is in their own time kind of issue. Just because you’re ready for them to move forward or you see the potential and I think that as a coach building a team, that’s kind of the coach’s job is to see the potential in the person before they see it in themselves so we might see it and they kind of have to see it, but they also really have to want it.
They have to embrace that there is a next level to begin with. Then that next level will always and forevermore start with them. So there’s always two pieces of it, it’s two sides of the same coin. It will always start with you and it’s never, ever about you, but to get to the part where it’s never, ever about you, it has to start with you in the first place. I think it’s a combination of being patient with them and hoping that they’ll get to that space in their journey on their own time and also nudging them too.
Okay, how can I help you find a mentor? How can I help you find a success partner? How can I help you find someone that might speak truth into your life and you’ll be open to hearing them that might ask you those uncomfortable questions to whom you’ll give permission to ask those questions and will you be okay with not knowing the answers? Will you be okay with that stuff making you feel really kind of icky because on the other side of that kind of battle in your heart and your heart is where the good stuff is.
So if I can give them some tools, a mentor, a success partner, some personal development, and then at the same time hoping that they’re going to come to that place in their journey kind of on their own because I can’t force them. If you force them, it’s not the same. It really has to come in your own heart. It has to come from your heart.
Jimmy: What I love as a leader, they have to see us still willing to be coachable.
Julie: Absolutely, absolutely.
Jimmy: They’re looking to us and when they see us doing that, they stay more open as well.
Julie: I think that’s the piece that I learned more in the last year in a half too. They really don’t want perfection and the more transparent I am, the better of we really all are. So I’ve been much more transparent with my own team and like, “This is my mentor call with so and so and I have to have this information ready to present to them and then they’ll ask me questions and I don’t like it when they ask me those questions and then I gotta figure that out and then I’m gonna have my calls and my meetings with my success partner and we’re going to talk about this kind of stuff.”
So sharing with them the stuff that I’m doing in my own personal life I think helps them understand that this stuff never ends and that’s what’s so crazy cool about our business or any kind of business is that there is end to it. There is no place where you go, “Okay, now I’m done growing and here I am at the top.” That just never happens and I think that’s the coolest part about what we do is there really is no end. There is no end piece where you are at the top of your field and you’ve grown to all you can grow. There’s always space and place for more, most importantly to become more not just to do more. No one needs to add more to their plate, but we can all become more than we are right now.
Jimmy: That’s awesome! Thank you so much!
Julie: That good? Is that what you wanted?
Jimmy: We got it! Yeah!