You Aren’t Doing What You Do Best
Andy: So you do that. You talk about this love. You always believe this. Where does that come from? Because you talk about love about your Dad and in your new book. Obviously, about your mom. Where did that come from? Because versus just, “I’m just going to just do business and do this thing,” and you had this inner belief there was something more important there and you wanted to pursue that.
Bob: I always thought that there was something that we kind of forget a lot of times in business. We forget it at times. We are just so busy in life and so I always thought that people matter most. Hard nose it. God taught us this and somehow we forget and at the end, it can’t just be about transactions. It’s got to be transformational.
What I found is that I could interview 8 or 10 of the best people in the country doing a specific area, whatever that might be in whatever field, and then there’s one person who walks in the room who knows who they are and whose they are and the path they are called…I mean, talking about the Rangers, Jeff Banister, I gotta tell you just as a side note, this guy is it.
He’s a great human being, he’s a great dad, he’s a great motivator, but he’s spent his time in the Pittsburgh organization for years maybe never thinking about the huge amounts of adversity and so many people think adversity sometimes is always bad, but you know trouble and favor go hand in hand. So he just kinda turned that situation around and now it culminated with a culture and a love for people and he creates, because you can’t can be successful with what you like. You gotta love it.
Andy: You’re listening to the Tuttle Group Radio Hour. We’re talking with the man Bob Beaudine, owner of Eastman / Beaudine. Matt, I would hate myself if I didn’t give you this opportunity. We just made a side note about Rangers baseball. I know you’ve got a burning question you gotta ask Bob about baseball and the Rangers.
Matt: Well, I can tell you my favorite baseball player of all times is Nolan Ryan and I just want to know, who is yours?
Bob: Nolan Ryan he’s always been fantastic in all of this. I just love Adrian Beltre. This guy is…he’s like a bull, but the work ethic, how he handles himself in the Clubhouse, how he motivates everybody else…he makes everyone better around him and he just has fun. He’s just like a kid. You see him when they throw a ball inside and he dances. I mean he does this little dance. He’s just so fantastic and so everybody in the club, they all want to rub his head for a chance just to like get some of that juice. That life juice. So that’s mine.
Andy: Would you call him the locker room leader? I like the Rangers but I’m not like a die hard fan.
Matt: Yeah, he’s the leader. Yeah, he’s the team leader.
Andy: That’s fantastic. I love that. You gotta have leadership and one of the things you talk about, I think just in life, is leadership. You don’t necessarily need a leadership book. It’s not, you know what I mean? But it’s through every word, everything you talk about is leading.
Leading from the heart. Servant leadership. Leading with your friends and I think one of things that struck me about your first book, The Power of Who, not just me, but America. Probably the whole world and was that Dale Carnegie’s old book How to Win Friends and Influence People, its about genuinely being interested in other people and loving on them and you started to talk about it in that book that networking is not working. Talk about us a little, about that first book and what inspired you to write it and what impact you feel that its made.
Bob: So I would have written and called the book The Power of Friendship, but we have 5,000 people on Facebook are best friends. I mean friendship has become so disingenuous. In fact, we’re so busy with friends that “friendly” is now what people think friendship is and its so much deeper.
There so much more you can give. There’s so much more that you’re going to pass on to a friend in their times of trouble. I mean you can’t even get into that section and so today we have, when you really think about it, I had to change the name “friend” to your “who”, the people who matter the most.
I wanted to make a distinction that what if each of use were given the people in our lives. Okay. What if God gave you people, a tribe of people, that you have that are your friends and what if these people weren’t happenstance acquaintances?
What if they were strategically given to you to help you find your place in life you always dreamed about? What if finding or getting your next job or getting your mom into a hospital wasn’t about who don’t know, but whom you’ve neglected? Your friends!
So what we’ve done is the world has told us that friends are taboo. So, let me get this correct. We’re supposed to have a program that promotes friendship. Just get to your cubicle and go to work. So how has that affected them?
69% of the country believe that a bad day at the beach is better then a good day at work.
80% of the country aren’t using their #1 talent.
People are driving home, getting on buses, getting in their cars, getting on trains, and joining Saturday Night Live Whiner Family. You remember that whole schtick. This is terrible. “Why them and not me?”
Then we have 60% of the country getting divorced. Why? I don’t know because I didn’t marry the whiner. What are you doing? Here’s a thought. You gotta go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.
Andy: That’s big. When we come back, I want to dig in a little deeper how you feel that that book and making those connections with friends and diving deep with those kind of put another seemingly hole in your heart that inspired you to write the next book, which is before The Power of Who. Here’s how to make it go right. Here’s how to inspire and reach your dreams, but what happens when it all goes wrong. Bob’s going to tell you what happens next. So, geez, I just wanted to listen to him talk. I just like listening to him talk and then the inflection and then it goes down here and then I’m like, “Yes, I’m with you. I’m with you. Please take me.”
Jimmy: So, guys, thanks for popping in. I’m just popping in real quick here. I’m just taking a quick break here. You need to share this right now. If you don’t know Bob Beaudine, you need to know Bob Beaudine.
If you’re an entrepreneur or a business person and haven’t read The Power of Who, it’s an amazing book about basically saying you already know everybody you need to know. Share this real quick. You may not know this is a big deal. I may not have titled this correctly, but this is insider stuff. I just sat with this guy in a green room and listened to him talk to me for probably 20-30 minutes, I didn’t say a word and you guys know I like to talk. I’ve learned so much, but share this.
Look up Bob. He has a new book coming out called 2 Chairs and he just gave me an autographed copy of and I’m pretty excited to get into. Andy was nice enough to allow me to stream this. This radio show doesn’t actually go live until this weekend so you’re getting an insider look. So do me a favor, click the like button and share it on your page and be sure to tag Bob and let him know that you appreciate him sharing.
Bob: We kind of lost all this stuff that is the most important stuff, but we’re only one friend away from that getting back.
Jimmy: Knowing my audience, here is so many people are entrepreneurs that are trying to build businesses online caught or at home or something what do you do? If you know you are that individual that’s caught in doing something you hate, how do you start making that transition? Because you know, because some people feel overwhelmed or, “I don’t have the time to start that transition.”
Andy: Welcome back. You are listening to the Tuttle Group Radio Hour. I am your host, Andy Tuttle. Remember if you have questions for Bob or anyone here on the show during or after it, you can call or text (469) 319-0660 or go to thetuttlegroup.com.
Very excited to have Bob Beaudine here back on the show. Thank you for coming back for multiple segments. Now you brought up some interesting discussions, as I know every time you speak it does, but one of the things that came up from Jimmy, who’s joining us today. We’re very excited to have him and from Jimmy and Gabe talking, you mentioned something about 69% of people in the country think its better to have a bad day on the beach then a good day in the office, 80% of people are upset at work are not happy and aren’t doing what they are passionate about, and Jimmy you had a really good comment about your audience.
Jimmy: So much of my audience are people that they’ve identified themselves as people who don’t enjoy their job and they want to build something they have that entreprenueal spirit, but they don’t know where to start. They don’t think they have the time or the resources and what would you say to something like that? That know they are that miserable human being, to take those first steps to change it.
Bob: Yeah. So to start, time is everybody’s enemy, but timing’s your best friend. The paradox, the answer is that we start. So what we need to find a friend of ours that can encourage us, be with us, and then listen, we start a little Who group. This is such a cool idea that we take 3 of us, 2 of us, and we create a dream wall.
We start to put all the things we want and then we turn and say, “Who are all the people we need to know to start?” We’ll do that maybe on weekends. You gotta understand, when I wrote this book on 2 Chairs coming up, I did that from 5:20 am – 7:20 am every morning and then on Saturday’s, I did that for 10 hours because you have to remember all your stories and you have gotta deep in this. So it’s not like you’re not able…you can do this during your time of the day.
Get up earlier, but you need a friend. Now, listen. You were already given a friend. It’s already on your mind. You already know who that person is. Get together and say, “Let’s dream out loud. Let’s create a list.”
You can never get what you can’t see so that’s why we have strategic plans. That’s why my wife makes sure I write a list when I go to the grocery store. We have a Christmas list. You gotta do these things. All we have to do is have…listen, if you have, I always tell people this is a fantastical aspect of The Power of Who. If you have 100 friends and I have a 100 friends, you don’t have 200 friends, we have 10,000. Of course, we don’t have 100 friends, but if we had 50 of course we’d have 2,500.
You only need 1 out of 10,000 to do this together and the answer is that you do one thing better then anybody in the world and the job of a friend is to remind you of that, is to lift you up, to give you that shoulder to do it. Friends are different then acquaintances. Friends help you. Now, acquaintances wish you well. A friend is someone that know the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you’ve forgotten the words.