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Small actions can have an enormous impact
Jimmy: So, guys, I hope this enjoying this stuff and its amazing in here and the energy and how do you really do that text message exercise? He was telling us about that in the green room. Tell your best friend here on the chat. Tag them and tell them you love them here. Do that opportunity right now. Use this in the chat right here in the live steam and tag that person that needs to hear that you love them today.
You know, its really amazing that God’s put the people in your life you already need to know to help achieve your wildest dreams. That’s what his first book is about, The Power of Who. If you don’t have it, go get it. I really love it. My friend Mike Ryan, I recommended it to him and his business just continued to blow up using that very book and here in just a little bit, Bob’s going to be talking about this new book, Two Chairs, as well.
So if you’re enjoying this, please click the like button. I know its hard to hear. I know it keeps freezing up a bit, it’s hard to tell how many of you are on, and not all the comments are loading, but I’m going to look at this once I get off of here and pop back on here to I’ll respond to them. If you have questions, please post them here. You can tag Bob here as well and we’re gonna keep rolling.
Bob: She immediately then gets the note back that says, “We don’t say the L word in our family.” That’s what her sister says back and she’s now sitting kind of like as if Mike Tyson just hit her. Okay. She doesn’t know what to do and so she’s feeling awkward around all these people who are getting solid texts and her sister doesn’t want to say this.
So she looks at me and goes, “Well, I guess that was that.” I go, “No, send back and say, ‘No, I meant this for you. I love you.'” So she’s goes, “That just won’t work.” Oh, yeah? Well, were gonna wait. We’re going to keep doing it until its done.
“Well, she won’t respond.” Yeah, does respond. Here it is. “You just broke the curse. I love you. I can’t wait to see you when you get home next week.”
So hold a second. We’re talking about a text message. We’re not talking about something that’s colossal, but it is, isn’t it? Why? Because it’s the first thing you’ve ever seen that’s written. Some people, they’ll get this and their dad. This man stood up at Advocare when I did a big thing, the guy stands up and says, “My dad’s never told me he loves me and he just did,” and he sits down and cries. I said, “Put that in your notes. Take that text message and move it to your notes.”
So this is unbelievable, you want to be in this aspect because there’s some things in life we’re missing. This is such an important…I can’t tell you how many people say to me that, you know, “This isn’t gonna be something. Maybe I’m gonna get a good response,” and then they get it and it shocks them. They start to uncontrollably cry.
You and I know that, as guys, we’re gonna try and choke it back. Our eyes are gonna water, were gonna do this, and then the next one hits us and then were sobbing. We’re just sobbing and so, why? Because it’s love. We don’t get much of that. The whole world needs to be affirmed. Each and every one of you needs to be told how fantastic you are. What a great friend you are. How much I love you.
I mean, seriously, we wouldn’t tell people, “I love you”? What are we doing?
Gabe: I think a lot of people take their friends, they take their friendships, and their network for granted. So people are unhappy and they choose to focus on the negative and we do an exercise where you focus on the positive.
You write the positive things in your life and you write your negative things and a lot of times, they don’t write their friendships and network as a positive. It’s like a gift for them that there appreciative and don’t look at the network they have. If you’re feeling down or sad and you look down and deep everybody has someone.
Bob: Everybody has a community or friend. That’s why I always tell people, you’ve got who that you have this community.
Andy: And for time, because we can talk to you all day, we need to figure out how to do this with this guy for a longer period of time. wW need to take you to a very nice dinner and record it and keep it for my own encouragement on a daily basis.
Jimmy: You just play that that’s your alarm in the morning.
Bob: I have some friends who call me and say, “Hey, listen. I need a who lift. I need it.” So I tell them, “Hey, especially if you’re in trouble.” I have some guys who are not in my top 12, they’re way out in my number 563, but they see me because no one affirms them as in their top 3. If you do want me to treat you that way, when you call because this is a moment were going to take advantage of that.
I had a guy one time who has mesothelioma and so his wife calls me in the middle of the night and so, they don’t know what to do. She said he’s just screaming, he’s crying, he’s on dialysis, and they don’t know what to do anymore. I said get him on the phone and I go, “You wuss. What are you doing? You knew how tough this was. Listen, your family needs you. I need you to kick it up. I need you to do some things today,” and then its just magnificent. Some of the stories I’ll tell you…one story, before we start, so he tells me that he’s finally walking the mall.
This guy was the head of the Detroit Lions head of sales and marketing and he passed away and he did something. He called me and his wife went into The Limited store and so he’s sitting on that little bench. You know it, the husband bench. There’s that spot in our back, I don’t know what it is that we can’t actually walk. He said, “I had to call you today. I haven’t walked a mall with my wife for 15 years.” He said, “If I die in the next 6 months, would you tell my wife this was the best day of my life?”
I mean so I just get it totally. Life is so short and we just not doing and he died 3 months later and so I got a chance to tell his wife what that meant, but I get it. You just wait for that moment a few months later where everyone’s forgotten.
Andy: On a serious note, your stories are so powerful man. There’s a lot of people on Facebook Live that, frankly, have no business doing it or do like the Coffee with Keller or whatever. Actually, I like that guy, but there are those types of things you know, but boy, oh boy. I’d tune into a Facebook Live with Bob every day.
Just a little morning a like a video a little encouragement a 3 minute deal. I’d be all in. I betcha the whole freaking world would be in on that deal. A little Who live baby with Bob. Just encourage me. I’d listen to that every morning. Okay, guys, so last segment. We’ll get setup. I think were good on time. I think, Spencer. Can we do 10 again? I love it, I love it, I love. So we’ll do 10 again and we’ll get right into the book unless Matt or Gabe, do you have any other questions?
Gabe: I’m just listening.
Jimmy: I’m taking mental notes like crazy.
Gabe: Just that thing about people not thinking they have friends and they have people to dig into I think people take that for granted.
Bob: That goes though. That goes here, but that’ll go in there. It goes in there because the answer is it’s almost how would I find that here with 2 Chairs.
Andy: Can you lead with that?
Gabe: We had the best conversation during the break.
Jimmy: Sorry you missed it!
Andy: Alright, my man. Look at this. I love it, I love it, I love it.
Gabe: You should have capped him at 10.
Andy: That’s true actually. You don’t know. Dan is our normal. Spencer here is giving me way too much rope. 14 minute segment coming up!
Welcome back! You’re listening to the Tuttle Group Radio Hour. I’m your host, Andy Tuttle, here with the great Bob Beaudine really encouraging us. I know encouraging a live audience right now and streaming and hopefully you guys. We’re talking about really taking a little departure from real estate and finance, but I think its more of a core. We make a lot of decisions. I think they say we make thousands of decisions every day, but a lot of us don’t have the compass maybe to lead us to why we’re making those decisions and what I love about you Bob, one of the many things, is that you bring us back to what really matters.
What’s eternal, right? What were we put on this earth to do? To really connect like you said, there are people in our lives we were given. That’s a stewardship. There’s a responsibility there and there’s a great joy and a great privilege in life that you can live if you do that for others and you get that from others. It’s an awesome thing and you actually inspired some conversation from Gabe in a nice comment that I thought would be a great way to start this segment and start this last conversation with you.
Gabe: We always have the best conversations at break, right?
Andy: We do!
Gabe: So you know, I really believe that what you focus on is gonna to affect your mindset and that’s going to affect your behavior and I think a lot of times people tend to focus on the negative and when they play that game or they play a game of, “Let’s write all the things I’m grateful for and all the negatives things in life,” and most of the time leave all the friendships out.
I don’t think we appreciate and are grateful for the value of our friendships, you know? I think this is a great way to just open up that communication with your friends and if you’re in a bad spot, having a tough time, and having a hard time finding things that are positive in your life, maybe focus on those things that might be tough to get deep on and see the value in the friendships you have and maybe some you’ve neglected them like you talked about.
Bob: Yeah. So, you’re hitting on the nerve for people and what we also do, we tie it into the business piece. If we’re getting a review in business, why is it they can say like 37 really great things, but were waiting for the hammer?
Gabe: We’re focusing on the negative!
Bob: We know it’s coming! That’s what I tell people all the time, “There’s no such thing as constructive criticism.” I mean, what is that? You’re gonna tell me I suck? You’re just gonna get to this point somewhere where, all of a sudden, I’m a bad person, but listen, friends (true friends, right?) they’re not like other people. True friends do things for you that mere acquaintances wouldn’t even consider to do and we need to elevate that with our friends.
Of course, you know Andy said it, if you wanna be a friend, if you want friends, you gotta be one. There’s hard parts. How would we do it? How do we start? “Hello. I miss you. Let’s go have a coffee. Let’s have lunch. Let’s have breakfast. Let’s just get together. Let’s go to a ball game together.” I mean today all over the country, we get on planes, we put on our headphones, we don’t talk to anybody.
What if that person next you was the one was going to get you that big piece of business? We think now going on golf for 4 hours or something on a golf cart is a bad thing. I mean, seriously, Andy. You and I can’t talk for 4 hours? We would talk the whole time.
Andy: The entire time. People behind us would be very mad and hitting into us the whole time.